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Sunday, July 11, 2010

Butlers? Who Needs Them?

Nester.  Hearing his name makes me stand taller.  Nester was Mimi's butler and he stood tall with perfect posture.  Just as you envision The Perfect Butler.  His wife, Miriam, was The Cook.  Mimi and Eddie (her 2nd husband, our step-grandfather) lived the summers in Long Island.  We made the pilgramage to The Hamptons every summer when I was a child.  If memory serves me correctly I went through my 16th year. 

As mentioned in a previous post, Brother is working on our family tree.  (I've dubbed him The Research King).  In his surfing, he unearthed a blurry photo of Mimi's home on Further Lane.  When I looked at it; memories flooded every fiber of my being...and I just had to blog about it. 

Do YOU have a place - a memory - that when you think of it - you have to be still?  And go there...day dream.  I do.  It's here...at Mimi's.


I've a love of gravel crunching.  The driveway was long....and deliciously crunched under the wheels of our (always) slow approach to the house.  It seems we'd turn in the drive; and the cares of life would ooze on out.  Summers were slow.  Intentional.

Nester would greet us in a very proper way.  So different from ME if you were to ring MY doorbell.  I'd scream "woo-hoo, you're here.  Come on in."  Nester:  "Welcome.  Please do come in."

Another love of mine is The Cocktail.  For me, it's more the "word" than the drink.  I just love saying:  "Let's have a cocktail."  "Shall we meet in the lobby for cocktails?"  Back then, Nester would announce:  "Cocktails shall be served in the library at 7 o'clock."

My Brothers and I were under age but were invited anyway.  For Ginger Ale.  Most often I'd sit on the floor so my view was of a silver tray as an extension of Nester's arm.  Beautiful glasses of amber "liquid" tinkling with ice.  To this day that vision takes me back.  I was bent on sitting by "the secret drawer."  Mimi kept it stocked with Life Savers.  The Brothers and I always had lovely breath.  And then... "Dinner is served."  The grown-ups would move to the very formal dining room and the three of us were relegated to the kitchen with Miriam and Nester.  After our dinner, we'd move to their TV room and watch a little Bonanza, Hazel or My Three Sons. 

There was one dinner I won't forget.  We were invited to join them in the dining room.  Nester brought us "finger bowls" between courses.  You do know about finger bowls, don't you?  Well, at that age we did not.  One of us (????) brought the bowl to our lips for a drink.  So not the thing to do.  I tell that story today in my etiquette classes.  It usually brings a giggle.  I don't think Mimi and Eddie giggled.

My summers were filled with life lessons.  Mimi was my biggest fan and took it upon herself to mentor me.  I loved every single minute I spent with her.  She's the one that told me to (only) marry for love & laughter.  I did.  She always had a book in her hand - told me reading could be as good as any education.  I am surrounded by books.  Her home was layered with treasures...that meant something to her.  Mine is too.  I'll never have a streamlined, uncluttered home.

(Fall '78 or '79.   I was newly married to My Guy.  He and Mimi met.  It was a beautiful thing.) 

And so while we're still climbing our family tree nostalgic and wonderful memories bombard me.  I just had to tell you about a few.  It enforces my desire for my family to have (good) memories.  Thirty years from now, at 84...my boys can read my blog.  I hope they'll have fond and loving memories of My Guy and me.

I don't have a Nester but ummm, My Guy is pretty amazing around the house.  We don't have a chateau in The Hamptons but our home is filled with love.  I'll take My Guy in the Texas suburbs anytime and am grateful for enduring, loving memories of days gone by.

48 comments:

Dianne said...

This post is so beautifully written. You constantly amaze me with your writing and your background. How wonderful to have those memories tucked inside your heart. Mimi gave you your sense of joy, your delight in life. No better legacy to leave someone.
xoxoxo Dianne

sewmuchwhimsy said...

Oh Virginia, I don't know where to begin... First of all, Mimi, The Hamptons, Nester, Miriam, finger bowls...NO WONDER you're Miss Manners!! I love it! These photographs are fabulous as is your writing, as always. I feel as if I'm reading a novel...Please do share more stories about Mimi and her life. It's fascinating. I so love that she told you to marry for love and laughter...You can't ask for better advice than that! xoxo Gretchen

Jen West said...

I am visiting by way of the Denton Sanitorium. Amazing! I loved this post. I just felt like I was there... tray armed butler, lifesaver tucked in my cheek, everything. Thanks for the worthwhile visit. I shall return.

sewmuchwhimsy said...

Had to come back and see the pic of you and Mimi...how special is that. And I love the glimpse of the inside of her home...loving the green and white! Keep'em coming! Gretchen

Vava (aka Virginia) said...

Gretchen: thanks for returning! That picture is actually of her (other) home in Palm Beach. Green & white, still one of my faves! :)

MA said...

Hi Virginia -
This was such a beautiful tale. Yes, I know what you mean about being instantly transported.....BUT, I have to tell you, I was never traveling in the same circles as you were!
What fabulous memories you carry -- and I bet it never occured to you at the time. Youth is wasted on the young! :) Also, I love how in the picture you are gently touching Mimi's arm. Such a loving gesture. :) A sweetheart then as now. Love, MA

Dianne said...

Oh Va, I love seeing you and Mimi!!!!! How loving for you to touch her arm. I feel like I knew her too because of your many stories. So this is home #2!!!! Do tell us more.
Loving the slipcover and the the color scheme.
xoxoxo

catie said...

oh, virginia...
i love this.
~ the crunching of gravel
~ the fingerbowls
~ cocktails in the library
the b/w pictures are so dreamlike.
and the one of you & mimi...
L♥Ve you, dear friend.

Pam said...

Va...love your history. The pictures are too cool...you know I love a good old black and white photo....and please..when are we meeting for cocktails?? Cocktails on the Cape?? I think so..xoxo

Sandi Pike Foundas / LoveFromCapeCod said...

Oh Va... how I LOVE the way you express yourself with words...I love the way you weave a story and take us WITH you... we are sitting right there... in the library at cocktail time... riding in the backseat as you drive slowly up the long driveway.. with the long summer ahead of you. Thank you for being wonderful you sweet Va. How blessed we are to have you as our dear friend. Love you... xoxoxo San

martha said...

just plain GREAT!! Thank you for giving us this peek into Mimi's life and your delightful visits!
I am wanting for more! Stories and pix!!!
just smiling.....

TeriGigi/Girl Meets Paris said...

Every second of this blog is pure bliss!!!!

Cocktails... my parents never had them, but I always wished they would... like Darren and Samantha served on Bewitched. Always looked... so... sophisticated and celebratory!

I love everything about this post. You put me there... on Long Island. It's a place I've never been and always wanted to go... but now I want to go to Mimi's and meet her and hang with Nester! Sweet!

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