Binge Friday!

Life itself is the proper binge."  - Julia Child

I declare TODAY as Binge Friday.  I'm going to do what dear Julia suggests...binge on LIFE!  Live today to the VERY fullest!  I've always {{{LOVED}}} Fridays.  Especially as a working professional.  And, even now - as a stay at home wife, I have a sense of expectancy - oh....whatever are we going to do tonight?  My Friday fun usually begins when My Guy walks in the door after a hard week at work.  Since I am an early riser, I have 10.5 hours BEFORE he gets home.  What to do?  Where to add some oomph to my life?  Here's a start:

1. I will use my Starbucks gift card and buy myself a treat.
2. I will sharpen 24 Ticonderoga pencils and put them in a pretty vessel.
3. I will steal away time to read 30 minutes of a guilty pleasure...in broad daylight.  (Whoa!)
4. I will revel in watching Karen Leiker & Michael Stephens teach dance at my Cotillion class.
5. I will go on a date with My Guy.

         

I'm tagging a few fellow bloggers - I'd love to see what fun they put in their Fridays!

• Out of Colorado
• Views from My Kitchen Sink
• Annie's Eyes
• Ciao Bella
• five-ten-fifteen
• Morning T

"Flops are part of life's menu and I'm never a girl to miss out on a course." (Rosalind Russell). 

This girl isn't missing a beat - on  Binge Friday!

To Lent or Not...

I'm not Catholic, so never "Lented" when I was a youngster.  Not until 4 years ago, did I have the discipline to do ANYTHING for 40 days!!!!  #2 son had been sent off - by the law, mind you, not us.  But, it was all meant for good - as most things are.  It's hard to accept while IN it; but God knew I needed a  break. 
While driving that son to court, "Jesus Take the Wheel" came screaming on the radio.  No coincidence there. 

The next morning was the first day of Lent.  Hhhhmmmmm.....it was the first morning in oh, say 10 years that I had NO stress - aka #2 son.  Don't get me wrong, I loved my boy.  Unabashedly, unequivocally.  Speaking of "uns" - I was undone at this point, so much so, that a son sent away was acceptable.  God granted me the grace and peace to accept it.  And on top of that, I felt He was sending me to boot camp.  One of His design.  Lent.  40 days.  Obedience had NEVER been in my vocab.  "Lord, help me" had new meaning.

I was a closet candy consumer.  A sugar freak of no discernment.  It didn't matter if my fix was a fishbowl of M&Ms or the finest chocolates from Switzerland.  (Man, THAT was the wrong gift my brother brought one Christmas!!!).  I "met" a blogger yesterday, Clover Lane, who tells of her Lenten resolutions.  She's giving up the old sugar habit too.  I want her to know it CAN be done.  I've been sugar-free for 4 years now.  It is such a miraculous breakthrough for me that it had to be a God-thing.  I've had a statement of Beth Moore's taped to my daytimer since 2001:  "If you are about to do something so far out of the ordinary, that you could not do it without God, then it has God written all over it."  I focused on this back in '01 when I had to speak in public.  I think it applies to Lenten resolves too.

Wonder if Beth's mantra can help me this year?  My DVR schedule is full.  I spend too much time (wasting) my nights.  I'm going to give it a go - give up TV for 40 days.  If I say it here, out loud, I might manage...due to guilt.  I know - guilt is not of God.  Remember, obedience & Vava don't mix well.  If you pray, please pray for me (and Clover Lane).  I hope to spend more time reading, organizing, paying attention to what HE wants me to do.

(I'll let you know how I do and whether I decide to erase all the recorded shows...)

Suck That Marrow!

Winslow, around 1953/1954: Dad was back from Korea...he and Mom settled down in a tiny place in New Haven, Connecticut. I bet Mom dished these fish for dinner in a most delicious way.  As I posted earlier, my mother did everything well.  So my Dad STILL does at 78 years of age!  His life is out of a storybook - he travels extensively, hunts and fishes all over, reads voraciously, and charms most everyone he meets. 

(NOTE: the "layering" of silver & dishes...so me!)

I have a (new) friend whose mantra I've adopted: "...suck the marrow from life!" After flipping through a tattered photo album this morning, it's obvious my parents did just that. As often as I said I didn't have much in common with Mom; I'm slowly changing my mind.  We're the same kind of different and it warms the cockles of my heart to realize this.  She's been gone a long time and on this day, I especially miss her.

So, I'm going to move on in this new decade and tackle it with gusto!  Just like my parents did.  It's pretty easy to do when married to My Guy, surrounded with the "durls" (aka girlfriends) in my life and two wacky Standard Poodles that melt my heart!

Sweet Memories

My name is Virginia and I am a recovering sugar-holic.  I state this in all seriousness - sugar was my crack.    Sugar was my blankie...it made me happy.  Many a good memory is centered around food and the end result of dessert.

I love traditions and those grand women I hold so dear are often wrappped up sweetly by a tradition of their own.  Mimi - my extraordinary grandmother - had help so she wasn't in the kitchen.  But she loved a good sweet and one of her favorites was a lace cookie.  Mmm - the perfect crunch; light and delicate!

Next came Aggie, the grandmother in Texas that "adopted" me - she was my cousin's, but I latched onto her when we moved to the Panhandle.  Christmas & Aggie = Hershey Pudding.  Oh, vanilla ice cream has never been better dressed by this warm, gooey, thick chocolate sauce.   

My Mother had been a gourmet cook.  I have her cookbooks to prove it.

However, when she made the move that changed her life, she changed dramatically as well. She was not drinking the last 12 (???) years of her life and replaced her evening toddy with a chocolate chip cookie. How mundane, you say? Well...these tins were coveted by all. She would make a batch and bring them to whomever she visited. My oldest would see her drive up: "Here comes Mimi...and THE COOKIES!"

I wonder...what will I be remembered for?

Vava's Travels: Getting Giddy

July 2008:  Road Trip to Santa Fe (Part I)

The fashion show began in the driveway in Amarillo.  Really!? Who cares about looking like a fashion plate to drive for hours?  Four of my friends.

While tootling along a desert highway, we saw a HONKIN' bus and knew it had to be "someone."  At the truck stop, we asked.  It was Papa Roach!  Who?  Not on our playlist but after calling my #1 son, found they WERE known to others.  Said truck stop introduced "New Mexico" to us:  Indian goods and pottery.

We were starved for Tomasita's; however, a girl's gotta shop.  The first (unnecessary) purchases were $6.00 bracelets sold by a bearded lady.  We were favored by a great parking place.  At the Plaza, the parking gods once again blessed us.  And the hunt was on...for turquoise and the infamous "TC" bracelet.  Peach owned a bracelet I coveted and the initials "TC" were inscribed inside.  The Indians were selling their wares on the sidewalks - all shook their heads:  "No TC."  I was pretty disappointed.  Peach bought into the myth a copper bracelet to help her arthritis.

  

More shopping - Mac got a new wrap.  I bought a blue drop.  The store clerk was filled with joy and exuded peace.  She told us we must attend "Openings" - a Santa Fe event on Canyon Road, gave us directions, touched her heart and  blessed us with "namaste."  All the art galleries opened (hence "Openings") their doors and offered libations & SNACKS for free!!!

Mac loves to check out snacks as she is a caterer and fabulous cook.  Our favorite gallery was owned by Brad.  He wanted to paint a nude of Mac.  We made our own fun on the way down Canyon Road: laughing so hard we made fools of ourselves (again).  I spotted Rikki and Ralph Lauren!

On our travels we have a mantra "no chains."  Not even Starbucks....which led us the next day to a local espresso shop.  Two hippies manning the joint made ice iced coffees.  B+!  While sipping and chatting, a customer overheard us.  He was a jeweler and as fate would have it, told us he had a bracelet just like Peach's!!!!  The five of us (sort of) take over whatever space we're in.  The jewelry store was now ours.  An hour or more later, we left donning glorious arm candy.  Mine made me giddy.  The silver cuffs were officially named "Giddy."

The road trip continues....

A Few of My Favorite Things!

Stella, Duke, a coveted bracelet, homemade spaghetti sauce, cappucino, sis-in-law, gifts from nature.
A few of my favorite things...

Sybil

Sybil....in 1950 at the age of 18. This might have been the year Dad met her...

Mom was decked for a costume party at The Maidstone Club in the Hamptons and I have a feeling she was sought after by a few men! This woman could do it all - she rode horses well, played tennis with gusto, joined the men for a shoot: whether duck, pheasant or grouse. She swam like a fish and loved TO fish, be it from the deck of a boat or wading in a stream. She cooked what she caught and presented a dish from the pages of Larousse Gastronomique. She thoroughly enjoyed reading, smoking Camel cigs, gardening, sunbathing, and swilling bourbon. Meet The Renaissance Woman in my life - my Mom!

My parents married at 19 while Dad was at Yale U. This event did NOT please Mimi...as an elopment in Tijuana, Mexico didn't sit well with the aristocrats of the East Coast. Aaaaah, young love. No one could stop them. They were a dashing couple and had so much in common. The Korean War interrupted their marriage and Dad's college life. He made it back safely and life resumed. I popped into the world in '55 while Dad was finishing his stint at Yale. My two brothers followed in in 1957 and 1958. The house was a full one - 3 kids, many dogs (bird dogs all), lots of parties. Remember, it was the wild '60s. (Just think "Mad Men," the TV show).

Dad took the train from Connecticut to the City. In the evenings, Mom would have a cocktail awaiting while the kids ate in the kitchen with "the help." They were married for 19 years - I don't need to go into the uglies. Suffice it to say - they were combustible.

Some have asked "why the move to Texas?" Mom's sister, Dear Aunt, had married a Texan. It was evident my mother wanted a new life. To start over. And so she did...in the Panhandle of Texas - from a somewhat luxurious lifestyle to a simple, small life of a single mom with three children. Don't forget the dog and the snake.

Since this is Vava's View (mine!)...I recall that we handled it ok. It was much more difficult for Mom. Her life changed drastically and sadly she was the butt of the rumor mill. Yankees in Texas were odd. Mom hadn't worked in years and now she had to.

The next twelve years were contentious between Mom and I. But, thankfully the last fourteen years of her life our relationship healed and we learned to love one another for who we were. Both such very different women. I'd find her looking at me, shaking her head...and in the kindest way, she'd say: "I don't know where you came from." And I took that as a compliment.